I don’t know when it hits you, but most of my inspirations come about just as I’m waking up in the morning.  All the good stuff gets downloaded, and suddenly I have clarity, creativity, and just know that it’s Divine Inspiration.

That’s what happened this morning.

You see, I’m making some changes in the way I have been working and will be clearing some space for the next BIG thing to come in.  So there is an element of letting go that is necessary, without fully knowing what’s next.  This calls for loads of faith.  And mostly I roll with it really well.  But there are those days where my mind wants to get in and control….or at least pretend that it has control.

Because our minds feel safe when they have little jobs…like figuring out what to do in any given situation.  But when LIFE moves you, there is nothing your mind can do but sit and wait.

But I have one of those trickier-than-most minds.  It can get a hold of something and it’s like a dog with a new chew toy.  So the ‘battle’ between faith and will kicks in.  And since my very bright mind LOVES to figure out things, sometimes it wins.

This morning however, the Divine answer was shown to me.  Since I’m working on creating my new program for November, there are loads and loads of details and “what if’s” that spin through my head.  “What if this happens, what if this doesn’t happen, what should I do about xyz?”  But this morning, the message was clear:

Relax, and give thanks that it’s already done.

“What, my mind said?  How can it be done, I haven’t even put the webpage up or gotten any clients in the program yet?”  Then I heard this:

Just relax, and feel what it will feel like when the program is filled.  Be grateful and feel peaceful.  It’s already done.

Later in the day I listened to an audio a friend sent me that also suggested that so many of us spend our mental energy in what’s not working, that there is where we get stuck.  But what if we just spoke of the delight that we will feel when we accomplish what we want.  I could speak about how excited I am that 10 perfect clients were inspired to take the program and have had amazing results.  I can feel how blessed it would be to make such a difference in their lives, and how I was able to also contribute more to the economy by helping them earn more money.  And it would feel crazy good to celebrate with my team and give them each a bonus for pulling off such a seamless launch.

Doesn’t that energy feel loads better than the more traditional, “OMG, I have to fill this program…what if they don’t buy….is the price to high…” crap that goes on in most of our heads.

The secret here?  Pretty basic Law of Attraction stuff, but it was so powerfully clear this morning when that Voice said to me:

Relax, and give thanks that it’s already done.

Now what about you?  Can you relax and give thanks?  It’s a heck of a lot easier than doing it any other way.

And I’d love to hear your story.  What are you working on creating, and how are you relaxing into that?

Blessings!

Let’s start with the back story.  Or what I call the default mode.

After being a psychotherapist for 20 years, life coach for 8 and a business/marketing strategist for 4, I discovered (much to my chargin) that I was very often in default mode.  Meaning – I wasn’t dreaming.

Default means that you wander through life taking what’s given, or expected of you.  Example….I was a mom….of COURSE I had to have a mini van, right?

What happened that shut down my inner dreamer?  Probably just the stresses of life, divorce, and not taking the time necessary to really ask from a deep, deep place, “What is it that I would love?”

Just last week I finally ‘got’ it.  Here’s evidence:

Yeah, that’s my dream car.  A brand new Nissan 350z.  I still have my ‘mom-car’ mini van, but this baby is MINE!  Fast, sassy, and totally what I love.

Here’s the process to find your dream.

1.  Begin to notice what you’d love to create. It could be something material like a new car, house, shirt, shoes, or other items.  It could also be a quality, a connection, a business or a relationship.  Pay more attention and observe it occurring around you.  There is a part of our brain called the Reticular Activating System which is responsible for us noticing what we want to focus on.  Example – remember when you first were pregnant, you probably noticed HUNDREDS of preggos around you.  Or if you buy a certain kind of car, suddenly they are all over the road.  The RAS allows us to notice, so make sure you are intending to notice what you want, not what you don’t want or you’ll see more of that as well.

2.  Listen for the resistance story to surface. Translated into, what’s the little voice in your head telling you as you begin to dream?  For me, when I’d fantasize about having a sexy Nissan 350z, my inner voice would point out that I have two kids, and this car is a two-seater.  End of story.  Keeping the kids, so I don’t get the car.  What comes up for you?  Is it a negative thought about money, worth, time, deservability, or something else.  You have to discover what is blocking you.

3.  Challenge, challenge, challenge! When you are in the box with your resistance story, there is no connection to other possibilities.  It’s no and no!  It took a coach to say to me, “Hey…why not have two vehicles?”  WHAT?  My mind couldn’t even wrap around that new option.  Number one, it’s totally impractical, and number two…what kind of person has TWO vehicles?  (Hear me bumping into some ’stuff’ here?)  Do you have someone in your life who calls you on your game when you back down and start playing small?  Anyone kicking your cute butt when you get into the mantra about how it’s just not possible?  Do yourself a favor and find someone who will challenge you and tell you the truth.  Lovingly, of course.

4.  Create a new identity that embraces the dream.  It happened for me when my wonderful gal pal Mary Pat Kavanagh came to spend the weekend with me as we were going to do a business retreat.  I’ve been creating many new things and am doing well, but she called me out.  Meaning, she helped me envision what it would be like to play at a much, much bigger level.  Her most powerful question was, “What Are You Waiting For?” In that moment, I flipped script as they say, and begin to see myself as a powerful woman who can have my mom-side, and also my fun, playful, fast-car side.  What would it look like for you if you begin to embrace the identity of a person who is living into their dream?  Who would you have to become?  What would you let go of and what would you begin to take on?  Those are probably the most powerful questions you can ask yourself.

5.  Take action. Actually, I think you should take immediate action.  Do SOMETHING that moves you in the direction of your dream. Any action that signifies that you are claiming your dream is good.  You might even write out all the little roads that will lead to the dream.  For example, if it’s your dream to spend a week in Maui, one small step would be to go online and research hotels.  Or you could get pictures and place them around your computer so you see them daily, thus reminding you to keep your dream in the fore front.  Coaching assignment, should you desire to accept it would be to make a list of ten dreams that you’d love to see happen in your life.  Maybe a dream for one year, within five years, and a bigger one.  Pick something small so you can get into the energy of creating it, and be sure to send me an email and let me know what you have manifested!

So, my dear reader…what’s it gonna be?  Dream, or default?  You really do have the power to decide.

Blessings,

Therese